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I don't think "memilih suami yang salah" is correct. I think the correct term is "failing to identify the red flags in the relationship". Don't get me wrong, I'm not shifting the blame to the women's side. I personally think both sides are to "blame". God I hate that word. THREAD https://twitter.com/namyyramlan/status/1249895386539388928
So let's break it down 
. There are two sides in this argument. First is why men are "to be blamed" and second is why women are "to be blamed".
. There are two sides in this argument. First is why men are "to be blamed" and second is why women are "to be blamed".
First, why men are "to be blamed" for domestic violence?
No. They shouldn't be. Your responsibility as a father and husband is to guarantee the security and well-being of your family. Now, that's a real big responsibility and without a doubt very stressful. STRESSFUL.
No. They shouldn't be. Your responsibility as a father and husband is to guarantee the security and well-being of your family. Now, that's a real big responsibility and without a doubt very stressful. STRESSFUL.
Stress will lead to emotional instability which could lead to alcoholism, drug addiction and domestic violence. I'm not saying that moms have a better time that fathers. They are both equally stressed. Mental stress is the highest contributor to domestic violence.
Emotional instability does not only come from stress but also from past or current experiences. PTSD, alcoholism, addiction, financial instability but also let's not forget the minority of sadistic people out there who does this for fun.
Second, why women are "to be blamed" for domestic violence?
No. They shouldn't be. Yeah, of course there will be the argument of "salah pilih suami" but you need to bear in mind that people tend to change especially in situations which are emotionally and mentally challenging
No. They shouldn't be. Yeah, of course there will be the argument of "salah pilih suami" but you need to bear in mind that people tend to change especially in situations which are emotionally and mentally challenging
People say "the worst situations will bring out the best of us" while that is sorta true it will also bring out the worst of us. Don't have to look far for an example, just look at panic buying. To relate this to my argument, people change. Good people becomes bad and vice versa.
To put it short, learn to let go. Being forceful, violent and controlling is a few signs of a toxic relationship. If he hits you stay away. Call the police and try to heal the relationship from a distance. Divorce is always an option. Albeit it is a last resort.
In conclusion, who is to be blamed here?
BABIES. THEY DON'T PAY TAXES AND DON'T CONTRIBUTE ANYTHING TO THE SOCIETY.
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BABIES. THEY DON'T PAY TAXES AND DON'T CONTRIBUTE ANYTHING TO THE SOCIETY.
Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.
But fr tho, who is to be blamed? Who is the problem? Why are people calling each other trash?
The problem is the question itself. "Who should be blamed". "Who should take responsibility". We are too easy to jump on the blame wagon. Too easy to villainies someone.
The problem is the question itself. "Who should be blamed". "Who should take responsibility". We are too easy to jump on the blame wagon. Too easy to villainies someone.
This them and us mentality needs to be destroyed. So, to satisfy your constant need to be validated. Who is to be blamed? Assholes. People who are assholes. That guy that poked his wife's eye. He's an asshole. That woman that lobed off her husband's finger. She's an asshole.
So don't be an asshole. Be considerate. Be kind. Smile. Spread positivity. Don't blame one person or group for something as, for the lack of a better word, "universal" as domestic violence. Women are not trash and so aren't men. If that's the case, all of us are trash.
