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really wish that in the ongoing erasure of homosexuality i.e. same-sex sexuality we didn& #39;t just talk about the importance of the "sex" part (i.e. the mechanics of sexual dimorphism) but also the importance of the "homo" or "same"...
i am only interested in other ppl who are female BECAUSE i am female. the sameness is an inextricable requirement of my sexuality. because i know my own body & am grounded in my own sexual responses i cannot accept substitutes or facsimiles that imitate what i have...
in order for a lesbian to accept male partners she has to profoundly dissociate not only from the criteria that constitutes the category of "woman" but who she is, what her own body is- she has to ignore the dissimilarity between herself & partner thru ignoring herself...
as a lesbian w/a history of gender dysphoria i can no longer accept dissociation from my own body. i cannot have a male partner & believe "she" or "they" are the same as me w/out divorcing my body & mind, w/out cleaving my sense of reality & violating what intimacy requires...
it& #39;s telling that it& #39;s women who are asked to do this kind of self-negation & self-violation in the name of sexual acceptance. even gay men berated for their "transphobic sexual preferences" aren& #39;t quite asked to do this...
sorry, but the full expression of my sexuality requires body and mind wholeness! i refuse to sever that for anyone. to ask that of lesbians is uniquely traumatizing given our tenuous relationship w/our bodies & ppl who demand it absolutely know. fuck that
