Y'all need to be a little more assertive with people. It's not wrong to confront what their intentions are at the onset.

People are so scared of losing people that they'd rather be played. If they find you 'too confrontational' they're not fit to pass on their genes.

Selah!

Some of these people merely stumbled into you, found you cute or whatever but have no real intentions. They just playing as it goes. Quench their curiosity.

If you entertain a clown, soon enough you'll get clowned.