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So this is going to go down like a fucking lead balloon with some people but it is burning a hole in my brain and I feel compelled to speak out.
I don't buy your apologies right now.
You are acting like this has all come as a surprise to you all. But how can that be the case?
I don't buy your apologies right now.
You are acting like this has all come as a surprise to you all. But how can that be the case?
Both @KaylaLords and I left comments on that vile blog post telling you why it was awful. I actually spent time in DM with some of you and tried to explain why it was awful and how damaging it was.
As a result you shunned me
As a result you shunned me
Many of you stopped joining in with Sinful Sunday & Masturbation Monday and got others to join you in that. It was absolutely blatant. Some of you even unfollowed me on Twitter after I commented on that blog post.
You didn't like what I said. You wrote blog posts about intent and impact and tried to justify it all.
But now... all of a sudden you sorry and see the error of your ways. Suddenly you have realised that post was vile. It is a huge shock to you?
But now... all of a sudden you sorry and see the error of your ways. Suddenly you have realised that post was vile. It is a huge shock to you?
Sadly I believe you are sorry now because other people have found out and called you on it. You are not sorry for the hurt and damage you have done to specific individuals at all
Unless you are going to make apologies directly to the people you have harmed in this.... like @MxNillin and @OnQueerStreet then I don't think the apologies are even vaguely close enough to what they need to be.
I also want to say that the original poster of the vile blog post does not deserve a place in this community. There is nothing sex positive about that post. And they wrote it because they have absolutely no skin in this game. They were more than happy to throw a grenade
into this community because any harm they caused to individuals or the larger community meant nothing to them. They were merely impressed with their own perceived cleverness and I suspect remain smug about it all.
I am fully aware that is fucking horrendous for everyone right now at a time when we are all going through enough shit as it is but that post was written back in February when that was not the case. And the cheering comments where left then too.
However I will also add that I absolutely believe in redemption. I think creating space for people to learn and evolve and do and be better is important and having conversation that help people to learn are vital. Some of those conversations are HARD.
But redemption only comes with growth and evolution AND most importantly of all a true understanding of where things have gone wrong.
No one is fucking perfect. We all, including me, making whooping fuck off errors. The thing that matters is what you do next.
No one is fucking perfect. We all, including me, making whooping fuck off errors. The thing that matters is what you do next.
Shit sorry this is turning into a fucking long thread but... I have been in this community for over 10 years now. It is my home. I have worked tirelessly to help build and professionalise it. I have fought for bloggers to be paid and that their work be seen as of value.
I am not special or better or anything else. I am just me but I know I have worked to always be inclusive and honest and to learn to be better when I fucked up. You may hate me for this thread and that is OK. I have no fucks to give if you do because it means you don't get it
For now at least.... Peace out!
