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Really wish I could share some pics from my walk to the pharmacy yesterday, but after having someone identify my neighborhood from some graffiti when I lived in SF, I have to carefully consider what images I post.
I& #39;ve talked to other women about this, and sadly it& #39;s a thing
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I& #39;ve talked to other women about this, and sadly it& #39;s a thing
I think about this tweet by @LaydiexSkull a lot. I often post images weeks/months later to avoid having my location discovered https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😞" title="Disappointed face" aria-label="Emoji: Disappointed face"> The interweb is great sometimes, but has also made me extremely cautious from previous experience. https://twitter.com/LaydiexSkull/status/1236440001304342528?s=19">https://twitter.com/LaydiexSk...
Anyway, I don& #39;t say this to bring the mood down. Just want to make folks more aware of why I don& #39;t ever answer tweets/dms about location to strangers.
Also, be mindful of when you ask women what hotel they are staying at during conferences.https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🙃" title="Upside-down face" aria-label="Emoji: Upside-down face">
Also, be mindful of when you ask women what hotel they are staying at during conferences.
I met a girl @ an event who bought several styles of wedding https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="💍" title="Ring" aria-label="Emoji: Ring">s from AliBabba she wears to confs & a man STILL asked to have a "meeting" w/ her that she quickly realized was a date.
I know not every human is bad- but there are enough bad humans to make me cautioushttps://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😓" title="Face with cold sweat" aria-label="Emoji: Face with cold sweat">https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😣" title="Persevering face" aria-label="Emoji: Persevering face">
I know not every human is bad- but there are enough bad humans to make me cautious
So anyway, when you start seeing me posting pics with @elliottvbell from Prague in a week or two, know that I& #39;m still social distancing https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😅" title="Smiling face with open mouth and cold sweat" aria-label="Emoji: Smiling face with open mouth and cold sweat"> that was months ago. https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🇨🇿" title="Flag of Czech Republic" aria-label="Emoji: Flag of Czech Republic">
If you& #39;d like to be a good ally, plz https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🐝" title="Honeybee" aria-label="Emoji: Honeybee"> mindful of these types of location questions/comments, & call out that behavior when you see it happen.
I know not everyone& #39;s intentions are malicious, & everyone makes mistakes. But helping folks realize how scary this can be is step 1.
I know not everyone& #39;s intentions are malicious, & everyone makes mistakes. But helping folks realize how scary this can be is step 1.
Additionally, do not require employees to list/document the Airbnb/hotel/etc they& #39;ll be at staying at for events (or require a particular location for all employees) in a public doc to employees. So many women are afraid to speak up, but this can make some of us feel very unsafe.
tldr: be mindful of requesting location specifics, regardless of gender/public presence/etc. You& #39;d be surprised to hear how many folks travel with additional door stops/locks/etc while on the road. I& #39;d love to say I& #39;m being paranoid, but I& #39;ve heard enough stories https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😓" title="Face with cold sweat" aria-label="Emoji: Face with cold sweat"> safety first
Even comments like "WOW- such a high floor- BALLER STATUS" from a random dude in a hotel elevator can be extremely triggering.
Be mindful, y& #39;all. You may think it& #39;s playful, but you just announced where I& #39;m staying to the entire elevator. stfuhttps://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🤦🏼♀️" title="Woman facepalming (medium light skin tone)" aria-label="Emoji: Woman facepalming (medium light skin tone)">
Be mindful, y& #39;all. You may think it& #39;s playful, but you just announced where I& #39;m staying to the entire elevator. stfu
In conclusion, no one should know where I am/what I& #39;m doing/where I& #39;m staying unless I explicitly announce it (for a meet-up, event I& #39;m speaking at, etc).
By calling out this behavior, you can save some folks from a lot of anxiety.https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="❤️" title="Red heart" aria-label="Emoji: Red heart">
By calling out this behavior, you can save some folks from a lot of anxiety.
If you feel awkward/uncomfortable calling out this behavior (understandable), feel free to share this thread and say something like (cont.):
"Hey- I saw [we& #39;re/you] [requesting folks list their hotels/asked Jessica where she& #39;s staying]. FYI, I learned a lot from this thread on Twitter, and wanted to be mindful of [her/our employees] safety."
Hope this thread has been helpful!
Hope this thread has been helpful!
Think I& #39;m being paranoid? I& #39;m glad you feel safe at all times. And I so wish I could show you how many DMs I& #39;ve gotten in the last hour from women thanking me for this post https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🙃" title="Upside-down face" aria-label="Emoji: Upside-down face">
Hope this thread can provide some perspectivehttps://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="❤️" title="Red heart" aria-label="Emoji: Red heart">
Hope this thread can provide some perspective
Also, I appreciate all the DMs apologizing for previous slip-ups from dudes who think this is about them/apologizing for the actions of the male gender, but this isn& #39;t referencing a specific incident (this happens v often) so plz just do better going forward my dudes https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🙃" title="Upside-down face" aria-label="Emoji: Upside-down face">https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="❤️" title="Red heart" aria-label="Emoji: Red heart">
