I’ve been single for about a year now & what I realized is how “not ready” I am to settle down.

mainly because I’m not where I want to be & still have a lot I want to learn/accomplish on my own. IMO the man id even want, is on a level I haven’t reached yet or growing himself so I don’t expect him to cross paths with me just yet.

in the nicest way possible, I don’t want anyone who would want me right now. Not that I don’t think highly of myself but, I want to surpass this level (many times) & when I do I know I’ll attract the right one.

takes being with someone who wasn’t on the same level as you to truly understand this. you’ll never want to waste that time again. things you had already grown from, they were still learning. not a bad thing, just exhausting.

— also, just want to make this clear... I’m in no way saying your partner can’t teach you things. but IMO I imagine things flow much smoother when you shed skin a few times solo dolo. I don’t have to argue/hurt anyone while I’m growing. a lot of peace in that...