I was going to say something about Adam Koebel the other day, but I was just too exhausted, too grumpy, to used up.

So, today. Ima prolly be pretty preachy in the coming weeks, because an old Calling has been...well, calling to me. But Ima keep it real for you.

The desire to loudly declare condemnation is strong, whenever something like that comes to light. That's useful. It gets ungood things talked about! If you are in a position where you think it will do some good to proclaim your digust, or even just to say 'I hate this, I so mad'

then that is OKAY. But be careful of ego, especially on social media. Outrage is so addictive, and even people will a solid aversion to it can be susceptible. (me, I mean me here)

So after or instead of loudly condemning, remember to listen for a smaller voice.

Listen for shame. Listen for guilt. Listen for 'ouch, I could have made the same mistake'. Especially if you're a man, ESPECIALLY if you really feel uncomfy contemplating the idea that you, yes you, might someday misunderstand a situation so wildly and upset others so thoroughly

Realise that every single one of us has fucked up, will fuck up, constantly and forever, and of course this varies wildly in the scope and nature and intensity and consequence of the fuckup.
When someone else fucks up, REAL BAD, it is a chance for all of us to reexamine.

A horrible mess can also be a lesson and maybe in some tiny, tiny way, can offer some good out of a generally nauseating bit of news. Each fuckup is a chance to examine and embrace humility and self-assessment.

We can all become better. Every day, in so many ways. It's never over. It's NEVER over.

Thanks for reading. Please, take care of one another.