the reason I don't trust white cis queer/gay men is because time and time again they have shown they are violently racist and misogynist but feel it's okay because 'I'm oppressed too!' but ignore the coded and racist language in their communities.

they take black culture and deem it as their own while looking down on black and non white people. they love to say they have a sassy black woman inside, but hate black women, especially when the black woman calls them out on it.

I'm not saying this is exclusive to queer white cis men, but it sure is common. I've found that, overall, white people, esp men, are desperate for something that explains why their lives are tougher than what the white supremacist society tells them it should be.

They want racism to affect them, so they can say the reason they're such a mess is anti white prejudice. or that it's homophobia, though they do not bear the brunt of it. so I think that's why this happens? they feel they've earned being a dink because they got called cracker?