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Marginalized communities have a bad habit out of being so hypervigilant about our safety from both real and perceived threats that we compromise our willingness to accept that sometimes we're fallible and emotionally immature.
All of them. Every single one. From race to gender.
All of them. Every single one. From race to gender.
And we resort to gaslighting and putting on blinders to our own bullshit we refuse to process internally for the sake of that safety. It's very flawed and human, but it's toxic.
Not all criticism we get (in good faith) is meant to essentialize us. We're pieces of shit sometimes
Not all criticism we get (in good faith) is meant to essentialize us. We're pieces of shit sometimes
All communities are shitty under Capitalism and under this system we've built. We're emotionally stunted, don't know how to form camaraderie or functional relationships, suck at conflict resolution, and we don't know how to grow w/ one another, flaws and all.
"Say what you mean."
Alright, to put it simply, we should be protected and listened to because everyone wants us dead, but we act like 5-year-olds when we (individually) have to be introspective of toxic behavior we perpetuate.
"I'm a victim. I can do no wrong."
Alright, to put it simply, we should be protected and listened to because everyone wants us dead, but we act like 5-year-olds when we (individually) have to be introspective of toxic behavior we perpetuate.
"I'm a victim. I can do no wrong."
No one's trying to enable TERFS and Nazis or whom the fuck ever. They're gonna use anything as bait regardless.
What I care about is community suffocation. I don't care WHAT you've been through. You can be a child. You can use that as a shield and get called out for it.
What I care about is community suffocation. I don't care WHAT you've been through. You can be a child. You can use that as a shield and get called out for it.
You dogpile people online in large community numbers over any tiny thing. No one ever stops and thinks, "Am I blowing this out of proportion? Am I actually at risk? Do I need to chill and maybe just block and move on?"
Then you gaslight the target into compliance.
Then you gaslight the target into compliance.
You internalized however the fuck you were treated and abused and turn it on other people because you can control that outcome and you're in power.
You don't use that wisely. You use it willy-nilly. I get why, but it makes you pick fights. Sometimes, I think ya'll get bored.
You don't use that wisely. You use it willy-nilly. I get why, but it makes you pick fights. Sometimes, I think ya'll get bored.
You're on a social site that enables fast reactive behavior that leaves no room for thoughtful consideration or nuance. Whole platform's catered to drama.
If someone doesn't know how to check themselves, it can make them an idiot to get a reaction.
If someone doesn't know how to check themselves, it can make them an idiot to get a reaction.
Long story short, all our communities are rancid and toxic. Good people are in them. And there are good intentions and good efforts made.
But we're not mature. Not in the slightest. And we're not supposed to be. It's what keeps us fighting and distracted.
We have to do better.
But we're not mature. Not in the slightest. And we're not supposed to be. It's what keeps us fighting and distracted.
We have to do better.
