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STORY TIME: The time my Muslim African mum found a video clip of my boyfriend and I having sex on my phone
so some backstory: i have twin brothers and it was their birthday. their friend was meant to take them out but something happened and my brothers didnt get to celebrate how they wanted
(some of it is gonna be vague bc what happened to my brothers is their business)
twin 2 calls my mum and he needs her, but i answered the phone since she was praying. i’m trying to calm him down in the meantime. she finishes and takes the phone and speaks to him for a bit
she doesn’t know what to say so i take the phone and leave the room bc when me and my brothers talk, a whole lotta curse words get mixed up, so with me trying to get to him i might slip up and say something
after some time my mum comes back and asks for the phone, she talks to him for a few seconds but he wants to talk to me instead, so my mum asks me to unlock my phone so she could call my other brother (twin 1) and ask him what was going on
i forgot a bit more backstory!that day my boyfriend and i were just doing a lil sexy thing over facetime and i sent him a (very explicit) video a few months ago that we made for this exact reason (we have videos like that bc when we go home for summer its always for a few months)
so anyways, my mum takes my phone to call twin 1 and i leave the room to continue talking to twin 2
i have no idea how long i was gone for but when i came back my phone was locked and on the bed, i didnt think anything of it and i gave my mum her phone back to talk to twin 2
so when i pick up my phone to text my boyfriend about what just happened, lo and behold my messages with him were already opened and my mum had gone back through it (idk how far back). the video was fresh right there (i sent it to him literally HOURS before this)
so i’m terrified. my hearts racing. i’m shaking praying she aint gone tell my dad bc he’d kill me. he aint even know i had a boyfriend (to clarify my mum has always known about my boyfriends but didnt know i was getting freaky and my dad has never known either)
i go into the room with her and i’m like
my mum and i have never had the talk. i’ve always been very sexually open and honest while my mum has told me to not think about it bc its haram
so here we are and my mum starts crying saying i was making porn, and i cant lie i almost laughed BUT i contained myself and trying to convince her that he was my first time etc
the good thing is my boyfriend and i have been together for 2.5 years and my mum knows that so i tried to say that we’re in love
when i tried to say we were being my safe, she turned to me and say how, bc let me tell y’all i forgot he was going in raw in that video (i’m on the depo shot which is haram still) so i had to change the subject
after 4 hours of me trying to calm her down she finally goes to sleep and continues to ignore me for the week (which i didnt mind, i knew she just needed time to wrap her head around this)
my mum grew up in a very traditional ethiopian muslim household. my family believes in arranged marriages. my parents (who are happy) were married within the week they met. me having sex before marriage was a heartbreak to her.
but finally we had a talk, where i made her realise that i’m doing my own life and the decisions i make are my own, and not based off of the life they raised me in. i said we dont have to talk about it ever again if shes uncomfortable. she said she just hopes i get married
now me and my mum are cool but we just pretend like that dark week of summer never happened.
