i’m getting married in december. we don’t care what size or shape our wedding is, we just want to be married. it would be nice to celebrate with loved ones but it’s not a priority of covid-19 is still a threat to their wellbeing.

i love my partner more than any other person but

here is a list of things we have that are just as important as love, that you should consider before picking your forever person.

laughter (lots of it)
mutual trust
each other’s best interests at heart
no drama
sex that we both put effort into
friendship
the space we need

respect
security
arguments (sometimes) that we try to resolve as effectively as we know how
teamwork
the best of intentions towards one another

we aren’t perfect, but we are perfect for each other. and, as someone who survived domestic violence, it’s something i never expected

please don’t settle for people who treat you badly. while everyone has the capacity to change and grow, you shouldn’t dedicate your entire life to someone who isn’t making you a priority now.

you deserve more.

p.s. someone who is deliberately hurting you will continue to do so and their behaviour will probably escalate. they’re not going to change.

there is someone out there worthy of your love. there is also you. you are worthy of your love.