. @bbc5live doing phone in on care homes. This lady is talking about her dad dying in a care home. Nicky Campbell asked her to talk about his life to stop him being a statistic.
Guiseppe had been head chef at The Savoy & catered Prince Charles' stag night. I started crying here-

- I wouldn't have thought I'm the kind of person to change emotionally from hearing "my dad in a care home" to the biography of a hard working special human - as she just said, "he's not even a statistic, his death hasn't been counted". From head chef at The Savoy to nothing.

- but it's too easy to see care homes as places full of anonymous "old people" just waiting to die among staff below minimum wage- the media narrative about them has mainly been how awful they can be- shock docs. Campbell's instinct to humanise this is bang on & very upsetting.

I understand many of you will have relatives in care homes- I never have had, my mum was terrified of them, but died at 60. It's such a hard decision to put your parent into care - everyone I know has done it riddled with guilt. How punished will they feel now?

There's also something about a man who ran the kitchens for the ruling classes, being thrown in some anonymous "and others" hand wave by those he literally used to sweat to please- that grates hugely.

BTW - thank you for the support on this thread - I was nervous admitting I'm a bit of an ignorant twat when it comes to care homes - not had to think about them, so haven't until now- which is why programmes like this are so important- all of us need a wake up call now and then x