i really wish young people who are exploring intimacy and relationships would understand that no matter what they do, they can never fully control the outcome of someone else’s actions, and even further, they simply don’t have the right to.

people always eventually show you who they are and you have to LET THEM. you need to give them the space, privacy & freedom to make whatever decisions they want because you will never test someone’s true character if you’re constantly trying to control or manipulate what they do.

i know a lot of you are terrified of being left, being betrayed and being replaced, and as a result, you try to do whatever you possibly can to try to keep your partner’s attention and loyalty, but you are not actually gaining anything from that except a false sense of security.

believe me when i tell you that you should never have to, or even want to monitor or police your partner to try to make sure they’re making decisions that benefit your relationship. someone who is right for you ultimately respects and chooses you & your partnership on their own.