I truly find it surprising that basically everyone thought this was fine. Consider alternatives: orienting him and using it as a way to spend more time with him, building his sense of comfort, finding ways to orient him that don’t agitate him etc. 1/2 https://twitter.com/winnie4prez/status/1249489467792121858

None of this is possible when I just keep him in the dark! I actively contributed to reducing our engagement vis a vis the real world! To me, this speaks to how healthcare providers (like me) can actively contribute to depersonalizing ppl w dementia. 2/2

(I can appreciate with caregivers let it slide because there is a mutual pain and frankly exhaustion in the process of reorienting your loved one. But I don’t find it as excusable for someone like myself, and often a way to weasel out of engaging with ppl w dementia!)

(Clearly I’m not done this thread...

I think sometimes this is why family members will feel that healthcare providers are too lax or uncaring towards patients w dementia. IE b/c they think we ought to be at least taking the trouble to help them continue to exist in our world,

incl the painful ness of the world (ie orienting to the world). It is difficult to do it as a family member but I’ve noticed that v few family members let such major things slide (ie believing you’re on an airplane) though they may let minor inaccuracies go.