hi in this thread please comment ways you have accidently fucked up by saying something you thought was totally sincere but due to differences in communication the other person took completely the wrong way

doesnt need to be a specific example but just the way in which your way of communicating differs. for me, i tend to be very trusting and up front with a lot of what im feeling - but, i also joke around a lot. so i feel that a lot of the time i speak, people have a difficulty

determining when im being genuine and when im just fucking around

i feel like a lot of it comes down to tone, right? which is a tricky thing to convey over text, which is where a lot of my issues stem from i feel. as a writer i should be able to properly convey how im feeling through words but apparently im not really as good as i thought

which then loops back around into my own understanding of how other people speak and communicate. we innately believe everyone talks just like us and that their tonality and phrasing and all that is exactly like ours, but people are wildly different from one another

this is why i feel that knocking people for missing social cues is horseshit, because everyone is different and what might be obvious for one person is completely nothing to someone else

and that dumb texting meme thats been going around is a really good example of what im talking about in a lot of ways. people say shit that they either mean one way, or dont mean at all, and expect the other person to pick up on it, but of course the other person wont

this is partially why i feel manipulated by so many people. because with these particular individuals, we rarely ever get into disagreements over communication or even disagreements in general. i fucking hate that, it feels synthetic af to me. the last person in my life like that

was really manipulative to not only me but many others. so im in this limbo between wanting to have my guard constantly up for fear of being gaslit and having all that shit happen again, and wanting to be open and sincere with people and have that be reciprocated.

also i wanna be clear this isnt really a subtweet. i dont roll like that, if i have a serious issue with you i will address it with you, not vaguely publicly like this. this is just sort of me venting

i guess i should be explicit in this case: most of, like 99% of my tweets, should be taken very lightly as they are all meant to be goofy. rarely, like in this instance, i will be genuine and try to start an honest conversation - i feel like my tone in this thread is pretty clear

when talking to me in dms, im aware that this line can be a bit blurrier. if i know you fairly well, i will most likely be more genuine while cracking some jokes, but if i barely know you i will probably just be completely goofy and non serious