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This is a good thread, Andrew. Thank you. https://twitter.com/aleams/status/1249771139330703363
And not that my, or anyone’s, sexuality is anyone’s business, but if I were to express my “horny feelings” online, it would be a nightmare for me.
First off, I have AT MINIMUM five people who would immediately text/message me to make fun of me for it. They wouldn’t mean any harm, but it would hurt.
A few more would tell me I’m being “too much” or say it isn’t “classy or respectable.”
A few more would tell me I’m being “too much” or say it isn’t “classy or respectable.”
Secondly, I’d be worried that by expressing natural sexual feelings online, I would be somehow playing into the “men only want sex” narrative, which is something I loathe and refuse to be a part of in perpetuating.
Thirdly, I would overthink myself into oblivion, worried that I’d somehow come off as someone who is flippant about anything sexual, which I am not.
I won’t even go into further detail about this publicly.
I even worry about this with some jokes I make or movies I quote.
I won’t even go into further detail about this publicly.
I even worry about this with some jokes I make or movies I quote.
So no, I’m not gonna be “horny on main” because I am not going to risk anything being taken out of context on this absolute nightmare of a website.
One tweet in a thread said sarcastically could go viral and change my life for the worse.
One tweet in a thread said sarcastically could go viral and change my life for the worse.
But anyway.
It’s not like this thread really matters since I don’t WANT to express that part of myself online.
But I think some of the men who WANT to express that are erring on the side of caution. I mean, part of why I don’t do it is to be sensitive of others’ feelings.
It’s not like this thread really matters since I don’t WANT to express that part of myself online.
But I think some of the men who WANT to express that are erring on the side of caution. I mean, part of why I don’t do it is to be sensitive of others’ feelings.
I just wish men were better. I wish they weren’t loud and crude and vile. I wish we lived in a world where men who are more sensitive about this topic (me) didn’t have to feel ashamed on one hand for not being “horny enough” and ashamed on the other hand for being “too much.”
Because yeah, I feel things. I want things. But I also don’t want to feel “less than” for not wanting some things, or wanting to wait on other things, or whatever.
I want to feel safe to express my sexuality, if I so choose, and I do NOT feel safe to do that anywhere online.
I want to feel safe to express my sexuality, if I so choose, and I do NOT feel safe to do that anywhere online.
