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Ted Talk: Self Love.
There's so much baggage that comes with being gay/bi that when you're finished sorting through those shit,its hard not to have scars. First you have to tackle the view that you're not "normal" and that somehow you liking what you like makes you "different"
There's so much baggage that comes with being gay/bi that when you're finished sorting through those shit,its hard not to have scars. First you have to tackle the view that you're not "normal" and that somehow you liking what you like makes you "different"
Some of us grew up with emotional scars that we somehow can't rid ourselves of. From the boys who were raped, to those who were shamed and bullied for acting like "girls". From the ones scared to talk to there parents to the ones who couldn't even trust their friends.
You are forced to keep silent and carry a secret that you can't even tell yourselves. And it never really gets easier. Boys who like boys are forced to be a man and hide their gayness. Those who are straight passing having to make sure they know how to act in public
And those who aren't have to learn how to code switch or just be quiet. It gets worse when the community in which you're apart of places such a high value on looks, sex and material shit and everyone aims for it, regardless of the price at which it comes.
All of this is enough to destroy anyone's self esteem. Regardless of who you are and what you're coming from. Sometimes it's so hard to even see how damaged you are, because the signs aren't really what usually show.
I've seen guys cloud themselves with narcissism to cover their insecurities. I've seen others run from relationships because they fear they aren't enough. I've seen the most handsome guys f
king the most toxic guys because they think that's what they're worth.
king the most toxic guys because they think that's what they're worth.
I've seen professionals toying with vulnerable/curious students because that was done to them or maybe they're just too scared to grow up.
This Ted Talk is mostly for high school/college and university students. I'm hoping only to let you know that you're not alone and we're all carry something. And I might be contradicting my earlier statement, but even though it takes time it gets better.
As you grow realise your short comings and your insecurities, work on them and if you can't, then embrace them. Try to look at your self in the mirror, cry at your reflection, laugh even talk to your reflection if that's what you think will help.
Compliment yourself, if someone fucked you over remind yourself it wasn't your fault, regardless of the circumstances and how they or others made you feel. LOVE YOURSELF. Explore yourself mentally, emotionally and physically in whatever way it pleases you.
Also, never compare yourself to anyone, especially in this social media age, the guys you see online living their best life and being spoiled by someone are sometimes going through worst than what you're going through.
They might just be dealing with it differently or maybe they havent started or they've finished their journey. Focus on yourself and your path. Comparison never works, it only makes you feel worse.
