Saw this last night & said no. Mulled it over, still no.
I can see why others might choose different & I'm not debating whether or not they should. I just like being able to choose my response based on a judgment call not a blanket rule.
EVERY single time? I don't see why? https://twitter.com/g0ldenyis/status/1249165294616051713
Letting it go when I choose to is just as valid a response as correcting it when I choose to.
The GB phoneme as exists in my language doesn't even exist in the English language so imagine how much energy I have to expend, teaching it to every person every time. Nope.
Also, there's the fact that the meaning I assign to the mispronounciation, while valid for me, is not what it automatically means for others. So I need to sit with that feeling and interrogate it. Why does hearing my name said wrong matter so much? What's really going on?
I shadow a clinician who calls me Gembi. Imagine if every single time she introduced me to a client, I stopped the session and started a phonetics lesson because my name is important and everybody must learn to say it right or there will be trouble. Context is super important.
Abd so it's not that the feelings you feel when someone mispronounces your name are not valid. Or that should be required to put of with it if it bothers you.
It's that your choice on how to respond per time should be based on other factors besides a blanket recommendation.
Especially if that blanket recommendation is based on the assumption of I'll intent by others, or the belief that they're doing it for a certain exact reason.
We're all out here assigning our own meanings to the actions of others and it's hurting us. Not them, us.
Again, I know you have a personal experience that invalidates my claims and makes me wrong, and you right. That's okay. I am not interested in debating your lived experience. These are my thoughts and it's okay to disagree. Please and thank you.
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