So this bell hooks 'About Love' is interesting in asserting a set definition of love.

But does anyone else feel like there's a danger in that definition of describing relationships that aren't perfect, as loveless?

To clarify, I'm not talking about abusive relationships, but...

...relationships where two humans trying their best, with loving intentions for each other, but struggling with their own baggage, don't always get it right. And unintentionally end up hurting each other at times. Because no-one and no relationship is perfect?

Surely you could argue from hooks' assertion that 'love is as love does' means anything that doesn't lead to your partner's nurturting, even if wholly unintentional and the opposite of your aim (and broader patterns of engagement with your partner), is 'loveless'?

Idk maybe I'm overthinking lol