Cn transphobia

"Male socialisation" is not, as others have pointed out, what happens to trans women.

Unless you count constantly being alienated by thinking "why are you like this, I am not like you" at every male.

Cn misogyny

There is no place in male upbringing for us, and neither could there be.

At 14, I was on a car ride with a friend of my step father's. He though it to be a good idea to put on a song on how successful men don't treat "their" women well to retain them.

Later he pressured me to agree, and that "women should know their place" and such nonsense. That was very uncomfortable, and I very much wished myself elsewhere.

At 18, while expressing my frustration at not finding acceptance and love, I was told by another acquaintance, an uncle type, that what I really need is a good fuck, to "relax and take the pressure out of dating".

Cue the men of all ages surrounding me making plans for taking me to the red light district. I awkwardly _thanked_ them (gods did that make me feel a traitor), and made excuses.

I spent the next hour alone in my room, shivering and thinking just what on earth is _wrong_ with these people. The way they casually discussed that there are cheaper sex workers where they are financially dependent sickens me, when I think back.

I could go on... Bottom line is, how I never fit into all this, how I always rejected it and how I wished there was another way for me made perfect sense in hindsight. I was not socialised, I was abused.

I spent my adolescence without friends, because there just was no place for me to fit in.

If anyone told me that constitutes privilege, they are wildly out of touch.