i gravitate toward transparent people because they are a mirror for myself. i am a vulnerable and honest being who appreciates the presence of other vulnerable and honest beings.

when someone is hiding something from me it’s very obvious. i have an affinity for puzzles but i’m not naive enough to mix my satisfaction of solving mysteries with an actual person who refuses to open up as a means of having power over me.

if you fall for this trap then you still haven’t gone thru whatever is necessary in order for you to learn that you cannot change them. you cannot force someone to be transparent.

they will leave a crumb trail for you, opening up little by little with insignificant things but never fully. this is why people say “pls love yourself” bc all the time you’ve spent trying to decode and uncover this person could’ve been spent on someone actually worth your time.

how can you tell if someone’s worth your time? they don’t waste it. you feel energized and rejuvenated after speaking or interacting with them. conversations no matter the topic don’t feel like pulling teeth. things flow and there is harmony no matter what.

if you keep finding yourself in similar situations then there’s something you’re failing to learn each time so pay attention. the red flags may be different each time therefore i’m not blaming you but with any type of growth in this world, accountability must be had.

think about what type of behavior you allowed bc you thought you could prove your worth to them and that would make them stop doing it to you. right there is the problem. you shouldn’t have to prove yourself to anyone. they should respect you because it is basic human decency.