I’m not the most knowledgeable person around and my thoughts on things are constantly changing as I learn more. But currently, the normalizing of the harshness in the way that we are talking about/choosing how we are dealing with people with toxic traits really concerns me.

Humans are complicated as heck, y’all. Connection won’t and doesn’t have to always be easy to accomplish and maintain. So many of us have a lot of parts of us that we don’t know about or don’t understand. It can make it hard to love people how you want to when this happen.

It may take work. It may take patience. It may take outside help. That’s fine. It’s cool. It happens. People deal with all sorts of trauma (some that they don’t even know about) and I’m here to tell you that trauma can be TRICKY, y’all. It can be hard to understand and deal with.

Trauma can really cloud your judgement & cause you to act in ways that totally contradict your intentions. It can create some toxic behavior. I’m not saying that you need to deal w/ abuse but I am saying that the whole “they’re toxic so leave”mindset MAY NOT ALWAYS be the answer.

If you have someone who means well by you and loves you, it may just be worth the work. Some human connections take work and that shouldn’t necessarily make them less desirable because they can be just as rewarding as others. Why not heal and learn better ways to love together?

But I mean, idk. I’m just out here trying to figure things out just like you guys. It’s just some food for thought.

I, personally, would love to heal and grow with someone. I think that could be a beautiful situation. But I totally understand that people may think differently.

These thoughts were thoughts I was having lately but it is also inspired by a Facebook post too that I seen about choosing to heal and love rather than leaving. I just don’t know the person well enough to like post them. But that’s where this thread inspo came from.