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We all know that it is OK to feel pain. It's OK to feel lost, confused, unsure. It is OK to feel angry and alone, especially right now.
But did you know it's OK to feel less than whole?
We can talk all day about anger, but when it comes to feeling 'less than', it's hard. 1/
But did you know it's OK to feel less than whole?
We can talk all day about anger, but when it comes to feeling 'less than', it's hard. 1/
What does feeling 'less than whole' mean? Well, it means feeling you are not your complete self. We all get that. But often, it's not knowing what makes you that complete self. Knowing your affliction but not having a cure is often worse than ignorance. 2/
Or, you may know what it would take to make you whole, but not have the courage, or (more accurately) the social support to make that hard choice to be your true, complete self. If being a whole human being was easy, most of us would do it. But it's often not. 3/
And making oneself whole often means alienating people we care about, losing loved ones who cannot accept your truth. That is a hard decision, especially if you are an empath. Cause pain in another to heal yourself? Nuh-uh. That's not in your nature. 4/
But it must be done, for no other reason than the other's pain will be transient, while subsuming your wholeness will be permanent. And if they are destined not to accept what makes you whole, then I guarantee you you are not the first to cause them this pain. They seek it. 5/
But you, you need to be whole. We all do. True, many people never seek to know the deeper meaning behind their decisions or choices. And we should ALL respect their choices, but there is a big difference between respecting their choices and avoiding offending them because... 6/
...of their choices. Choices have consequences. You know this, it's often why you haven't made the decision to be whole, for fear of the hurt it will cause. But they made choices too. Why should you be the only one to bear the brunt of hard decisions? Aren't we all human? /7
This is your sense of self as a stage. You cannot have a true sense of self if you do not believe you are truly whole. Erikson's stage of Intimacy vs. Isolation is ALL ABOUT THIS. It's why it's the longest lasting stage of development. It's not easy for even 'perfect' people. 8/
If you've read this far you probably know all this. So why am I telling you? Because of this: It matters to have someone tell you it is OK to seek wholeness, It's OK to be who you are. It's better than OK, it's personal growth. If not for you, than do it for those ahead. 9/
You have the opportunity to be your best self, your most contented self and in don't so, pave the way for the next generation to walk on your path. And you pave the way from the children of those who don't accept to be more accepting than their parents. /10
For an empathetic person it is so very hard to accept their needs if it may hurt one they care for, but understand, doing so may help those in need down the line, generation after generation. Imagine a future young you, going through this quest for wholeness. /11
Will you give her the gift of a world your bravery helped forge? You can do this, if you are ready. If you follow me, then you know you're not alone. There are a 1000 ears to bend when you need it, a 1000 shoulders to rest your head on. Accept the help, so you can be the helper.
