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1/ Grieving during a pandemic:
I& #39;m reading more and more about people who& #39;ve lost someone close. I know how you feel. It& #39;s freaking hard, especially when you can& #39;t spend those moments grieving together. I lost my aunt yesterday... and I& #39;m learning how to grieve like a man
I& #39;m reading more and more about people who& #39;ve lost someone close. I know how you feel. It& #39;s freaking hard, especially when you can& #39;t spend those moments grieving together. I lost my aunt yesterday... and I& #39;m learning how to grieve like a man
2/ Not just that, 3 weeks ago, my uncle passed away, too. What& #39;s worse, I can& #39;t even spend those difficult times with my dad who lost a brother and a sister in the same month. It& #39;s tough, and I wanted to share 3 mistakes that I always do when it comes to negative emotions
3/ I& #39;ve been trying to resist tweeting about this as I hate pitty. I wanted to deal with it on my own like I always do. Always looking/acting strong in front of others. I& #39;m usually the source of comfort to others, but this time it was too much even for me.
4/ When my dad told me over the phone about my aunt, I was shocked, and I felt overwhelmed. Tears rolled down my face as I remembered the times I used to sit by her bed and laugh with her. I tried hard to hide the fact that I& #39;m in tears. I didn& #39;t want my family to worry about me
5/ Clearly, they could tell I& #39;m in tears, so they changed the topic and asked me about work etc. Which made me feel even worse. I asked them if I could call them back. When I feel like this, my usual response is "Go do some work!" Which is the most STUPID thing you can do!
6/ I try to avoid negative emotions. I would justify my behaviour by saying I need to make every minute count because that& #39;s the only way I can show my appreciation for the gift of life. Which is ok, but some things need to happen first.
7/ My mum called me, but I didn& #39;t pick up. I didn& #39;t feel like talking. As I was working today, I kept getting these waves of anxiety and shortness of breath. I couldn& #39;t focus on anything. I tried to play the guitar to distract my mind from it. It worked only momentarily.
8/ I tried sleeping, it didn& #39;t work. I felt even worse afterwards. So finally I shut my laptop, I left my phone at home, and I went for a walk at night. I could feel the emotions coming to the surface and again... tears. I couldn& #39;t distract myself now, my phone wasn& #39;t with me.
9/ I experienced it fully while I was on the street. Which is where you don& #39;t want to be when you feel like this! I didn& #39;t care as much. It felt good to let it out. When I came back, I called my parents and had a long and beautiful conversation with them. We shared those feelings
10/ I might not feel 100% now, but it& #39;s those moments when we& #39;re down, we connect with people. We heal together. We& #39;re not superheroes, we& #39;re men! And only recently, I started learning these valuable lessons. We& #39;re biologically wired to seek comfort in others.
11/ If you& #39;re grieving during #lockdown just try this:
A. STOP DISTRACTING YOURSELF - Put your phone on aeroplane mode, close your laptop and go pray, meditate, write on a piece of paper or just stare at the wall and allow your self to feel whatever you need to feel
A. STOP DISTRACTING YOURSELF - Put your phone on aeroplane mode, close your laptop and go pray, meditate, write on a piece of paper or just stare at the wall and allow your self to feel whatever you need to feel
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B. PICK UP THE PHONE - Just call someone. It doesn& #39;t matter who it is. Could be someone you haven& #39;t spoken to in ages. Sometimes just the simplest words like "I understand" will make all the difference. Thank me later
B. PICK UP THE PHONE - Just call someone. It doesn& #39;t matter who it is. Could be someone you haven& #39;t spoken to in ages. Sometimes just the simplest words like "I understand" will make all the difference. Thank me later
