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THREAD: MAKING FANDOM FRIENDS
The basic formula is:
Contribute in some way (reading, writing, art'ing, tweeting, however!) and take a little initiative (but carefully) if there's someone who you like.
The basic formula is:
Contribute in some way (reading, writing, art'ing, tweeting, however!) and take a little initiative (but carefully) if there's someone who you like.
Make things you enjoy, then talk about them.
Art, fic, tweets, tumblr posts, whatever, just try stuff! Then reply/comment on things other people are making.
Every close fandom friend I have was built around this concept.
Art, fic, tweets, tumblr posts, whatever, just try stuff! Then reply/comment on things other people are making.
Every close fandom friend I have was built around this concept.
I think in general people on social media are hesitant to "make the first move" so to speak.
If there's someone you want to be friends with, I often do the three strikes you're out method. Make three overtures and if they don't engage, move on! No hard feelings :D
If there's someone you want to be friends with, I often do the three strikes you're out method. Make three overtures and if they don't engage, move on! No hard feelings :D
Generally if you've had a few interactions with someone in the replies, it's probably okay to DM them and get to know them better.
However, if you're always the one sending the "first" message of the conversation for that day, maybe pump the breaks.
However, if you're always the one sending the "first" message of the conversation for that day, maybe pump the breaks.
Starting group chats:
I see lots of people wanting to be in GCs, which means that if you want to start one, there's probably lots who want in!
I've seen lots of interest on posts where ppl say "like this to be added to a ___ gc" and it seems like it works great
I see lots of people wanting to be in GCs, which means that if you want to start one, there's probably lots who want in!
I've seen lots of interest on posts where ppl say "like this to be added to a ___ gc" and it seems like it works great
If you're making a GC with specific mutuals, DM individual people first to ask if they want to be added. Can be a lot of notifs and they may not want that. Totally chill.
My general rule of thumb is not to "spring" a group chat on someone
My general rule of thumb is not to "spring" a group chat on someone
Discords are also an awesome thing. If you don't have that app, consider downloading it! It's a great way to make friends with people and engage in an "off-twitter" kind of way
If you're brand, brand new, that's a great way to bond with other people who are ALSO brand new to the fandom. Form a union. Roam the streets liking things with reckless abandon. Link up.
This is just what I've personally noticed in my fandom life, and maybe others have different experiences but in this time of social distancing I thought I might share.
I know it can be hard
I know it can be hard
And obviously people are COMPLICATED and situations vary! Use your best judgement, because no rules are absolute or anything like that.
Not trying to tell you how to live your life.
Not trying to tell you how to live your life.
oh also stray thought BUT:
sometimes DMs are just short interactions! A DM doesn't have to be ongoing for it to be a success, don't worry about it! i have cherished mutuals that i DM a shitpost to once a fortnight and that's so great too and i love them
sometimes DMs are just short interactions! A DM doesn't have to be ongoing for it to be a success, don't worry about it! i have cherished mutuals that i DM a shitpost to once a fortnight and that's so great too and i love them
