I have a controversial take

genital preferences are valid and having a repulsion to a certain set of genitalia due to trauma is valid

HOWEVER
saying you would never date a trans person is NOT valid because you don& #39;t know what& #39;s in their pants
bUt if you find out they have the genitalia you& #39;re averse to then it& #39;s valid to end the relationship for your mental health
(and imo the trans persons mental health too)

basing your entire sexuality around genitalia is really weird because uh,, that& #39;s a fetish, hun

for clarification:
I https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="❤" title="Red heart" aria-label="Emoji: Red heart"> dick vs. I& #39;m gay and I have a preference for penis/aversion to vagina (and vice versa)
first one is a fetish (because you& #39;re diminishing someone down to their genitalia and not acknowledging their personhood) and second one is valid

that& #39;s not to say that you shouldn& #39;t explore /why/ you have an aversion to a certain set of genitalia if it& #39;s not trauma based. you definitely should. because sexuality is based off a LOT more than genitalia.

hell have you SEEN a man& #39;s shoulders https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😳" title="Flushed face" aria-label="Emoji: Flushed face"> or the way they laugh https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🥺" title="Pleading face" aria-label="Emoji: Pleading face"> or subtle masculinity like that little protective thing they do when they put their hand on your lower back https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😩" title="Weary face" aria-label="Emoji: Weary face"> got me fucked up and I don& #39;t even have to know what& #39;s in their pants

in conclusion: preferences due to trauma are valid. personal preferences are valid as well but it& #39;s also healthy to explore & deepen ur understanding of why you hold certain preferences. don& #39;t diminish people down to genitalia you think they might have cause u& #39;r not always right

if you find someone has genitalia you& #39;re averse to then deal with it in a healthy way, don& #39;t be an ass but don& #39;t suffer through it in silence because it& #39;ll be toxic to you AND the partner.
talk about it openly and come to a conclusion between both of you or end the relationship