What this lockdown period has lifted from people is the burden of a sense of obligation to be present at everything. I lifted that burden from myself ages ago when I started ignoring social and religious functions. The only obligation I ever had was to call family members.

My friendships also became true. We talked online largely without pressuring each other or keeping scores. Whenever we meet physically, it was also normal. The only thing I missed was seeing kids of friends grow and getting to know them. A friend like @JasonNjoku tries hard at it

@JasonNjoku brought his kids to meet my kids. He also checks whenever my kids are in town. It is something I didn't realize was important. We shouldn't let our kids not know each other. They should have an enriched circle of friendships and a large pool to choose from.

I have also gained so much in life from my father's friends because my father also prioritized their own kids. My father took his friend’s kids as his own and actually tried hard for me to marry from that pool. There is a girl whose picture is still on his wall. His friend’s kid.

Our kids should not become antisocial because we have chosen this as a lifestyle. I once went to parties with my close friends like @EmekaOkoye and we saw each other every day and discussed for a long time. I now miss not seeing his daughter grow up. I will fix that after this.