I also think it’s on organizers to be clearer on what their relationship to this work is. For ex I have friends and family that don’t organize and think my relationship with my orgs are like...idk a book club. It’s like “oh you’re still doing that organizing shit.”

It’s like oh you do this thing and you get bored or you move on. Or it’s something that you do but it’s less important than like friendship or romance or paid work. It’s not something you circle your life around.

It took years for my parents to finally absorb that when I called myself an organizer it was something that I deeply meant, that there were people I was building with and who I trusted and worked with even when it was hard.

It’s not like oh how some people like one club and I just like this other club, like no this is actually my life. When this thing chills out I’m going to be more direct about inviting friends to events and also letting them know how much this means to everyone involved.