What happens when you become overly focused on another person:

You allow your moods to fluctuate and be determined by the actions or inactions of the person who has your attention. For example,

if they don’t reply to your texts, or phone calls in a timely fashion you might become angry/depressed or more demanding of their attention. Unconsciously decreasing your own magnetism. You neglect your self, your dreams, your ambitions, your talents, your connections with other

people you care about and even your physical appearance and health.
The bulk of your conversations revolve around this person- complaining about them, questioning their intentions, analyzing their every move and word.

You might claim you want them to initiate more conversations with you but you’re unable to stop reaching out to them first.
You lose your mind when you find out they’re involved with another person, or attracted to another individual or intimately engaged with another (inc porn)

You feel justified in violating their privacy by checking their phone, social media, etc without their permission.
This person becomes a drug to you.
Your self worth becomes tied to their evaluation of you.

You keep trying to *talk* them into having a better and more committed relationship with you with no results or boundaries being disrespected.
The correct energy is not being utilized to create the desired relationship.