hey — if ur wondering if ur experiencing comphet or not, consider the fact that genuine attraction to real men is where you truly want to and do kiss, date, sleep with and fall in love with them. you sincerely desire and embrace being desired by men. lesbians Do Not

and no, u don’t stop being a lesbian bc u have a weird crush on rui from beastars. that makes you a furry, at best; at worst, an anime fan. still a lesbian, tho

p.s it’s v common, esp when you first fully know/realise/accept you’re a lesbian, to still feel like you want men, and want men to feel attracted to you. it’s part of what i now know is an ongoing fight to undo a lifetime’s worth of societal effort to make men the be all, end all

wanting and being wanted by men - in my personal context, specifically white, cisgender men - is seen as confirmation of power, beauty and true success. it’s ok to want women as a sexy, fetishised phase, as long as a man is your ult goal. reject that, and ur in danger