people pleasing is a wound i’m proud to have healed. i used to have weak boundaries and could not say no. i kept denying my own needs, so i kept attracting the wrong kinds of people. people who would take advantage of me, manipulative people, fake people, aggressive people.

when i see other people deny themselves to try to please me, it makes me angry they’re denying their own needs. i remind them that they deserve to take up space & their needs need to be met. how could i ever feel pleased if someone’s first reaction is self denial?

good resources:

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-flux/201710/10-things-help-you-stop-being-people-pleaser%3Famp

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/your-emotional-meter/201803/how-i-learned-stop-being-people-pleaser%3Famp

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/prescriptions-life/201310/how-stop-people-pleasing%3famp