The Lilo & Stitch post and the various hot takes about Han&Leia deserving a "better child" than Ben Solo are products of the same culture that sees traumatized people exclusively as a burden to their friends and caregivers

Tumblr/purity culture is obsessed with denouncing *abuse* and *toxic relationships* but is also systematically unable to identify with problematic characters who aren& #39;t perfect little rays of sunshine & respond realistically to trauma

This results in seeing the traumatized character as a source of *emotional labor*, if not a downright *abuser* (even when they& #39;re child-coded or literally a child), and appropriately punished and/or removed from their loved ones& #39; lives

The PoV that purity culture embraces is ALWAYS the flawless hero& #39;s. But the flawless hero is not always the victim. And he or she doesn& #39;t always need to be *protected* from *toxic people*. Purity culture is completely blind to this nuance.