#Kwibuka26 Digital Commemoration

@LWSupremeStreet -How have trauma and grief evolved in the past 26 years?

"There's no one way of being-for everyone". @LaureIyaga
Each pain is personal and the level of grieve is different.

26 years later, for some survivors, the pain is still as fresh as if it was yesterday.

Grieve has a lot of stages, but it is not linear... the last stage is acceptance.

It has to be noted that Trauma is NOT what is happening, it is what the mind: processor- registered...

-How do we care for loved ones struggling during this time?

Try to understand that it is not about you, if your loved ones don't want to talk, maybe you being quite is the gift you can offer in that moment

-What of kind of fears do survivors still have? [history repeating itself being one of them]
-How can there be solace and comfort?

That fear can create paranoia, so one needs to work towards finding strength to "kwisunika" and say let's give it one more day, one more month...

-How did you come up with this idea together with the team? i know some of you were born after 1994.

@LWSupremeStreet : We need to remember for #NeverAgain to #CountertheDenial but for me, the main reason is for #survivors, Kwibuka should be survivor-centered commemoration.

What is intergenerational trauma? How do we deal with it?

Trauma can be transferred in all the five senses, what we hear, what we see, or through the behaviours of your guardians, the way they treat you, how they overprotect you, how they belittle you.. 1/2

Living with a guardian [parent, older sibling aunt, anybody who sheltered you after the genocide], who has been wounded, and you see them unhappy all the time, hear them using hurtful words, who connect everything to the Genocide because of the loss and the grieve they still have

How does that trauma manifest ? and how can one deal with it?