I just want to clear up a common misconception about toxic/abusive relationships. Most people assume that if you end up in one you have low self esteem. Really it’s possible that you merely have low self compassion. Allow me to elaborate-

It’s possible to know that you are a smart, worthy, capable, intelligent, honest, caring being but still end up accepting behaviors that a contrary to that. How? Because your tolerance for discomfort is too high and your empathy for other is high as well.

So in ones head you think this doesn’t feel good or that’s not what I want and I can and have done better. But you know that at the end of the day you can deal with that discomfort and you can sense that the other person really wants/needs this from you. So you just go

In fact*unpopular opinion alert*- I think having a high self esteem can hurt you when it comes to emotionally abusive relationships because when someone says something about you or does something to you, you KNOW that you are not therefore it doesn’t impact you the same.

Highly empathic person would simply say “Okay, clearly something’s wrong with you for saying/doing that- let me fix it” It’s actually the self compassion that would allow you to be offended that they would even TRY to have that impact on you at that point.