a little etiquette refresher for friends, patrons, and clients of sex workers:

SWers have always been very good at establishing healthy boundaries, but now more than ever, our boundaries are of utmost importance.

since many of us are no longer offering in-person sessions or dates, our homes have become our workplace. with more clients seeking online companionship and “digital girlfriend” opportunities, boundaries between session time and personal time are getting nebulous.

mainstream workers telecommuting from home have clear boundaries separating their work time from personal time. it’s generally understood & accepted that “work-from-home” doesn’t mean bosses or clients expect you to be on call 24/7. the same courtesy applies to sex workers, too.

a couple of submissive men i met on civvie dating platforms have been pursuing me for several months. they know i am a sex worker, and they’re “okay with that” (), but get upset & complain that i “sEeM diStANt” just because i won’t give them my undivided attention all day long.

in Japanese culture, it is customary to bring a gift when visiting someone.

if you wish to visit my home for some entertainment, conversation, or companionship, do not show up at my doorstep unannounced and empty-handed, then whimper on my porch when i don’t answer my door.

TL; DR: “i’m okay with sex work” is not the same as actually SUPPORTING SEX WORKERS.

people who truly respect what we do understand that we prioritise the distribution of our time, energy, & attention in accordance with the demonstrative appreciation & reciprocity we are shown.

sex workers have always endured a constant strain on our livelihoods—being deplatformed, shadowbanned, suspended, having our bank accounts frozen and our money seized . . .

the further constraints imposed by this pandemic have been exceptionally challenging for many to navigate.

client, lover, or friend, a person’s true nature really jumps out if they attempt to leverage the hardships imposed by this health/social/economic crisis for their own benefit instead of offering genuine material support to erotic labourers and other workers.

don’t be gross.