For some of us, today never had the impact it was supposed to. As children we didn’t understand why we were supposed to reflect on a violent gruesome death, being told it was our fault. So instead we felt guilty for not feeling the right feelings.

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#GoodFriday #EmptyThePews

And if you were unlucky enough to grow up charismatic, not feeling the feelings is terrifying. What’s wrong with me? Why am I not spiritual enough to think this torturous holiday is beautiful?

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Well my friends, because it was never beautiful.

There’s nothing beautiful about making a small child think their inherent “badness” crucified a man.

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There’s nothing beautiful about being told your worthless so that some words written 2,000 years can tell you your worth.

That’s called spiritual abuse.

And if your body is feeling all the hard things today because trauma is real, not imagined, you’re not alone.

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It’s just a day. Like any other day. Your worthy of love exactly how you are, not because the Bible told you so.

You’re humanity is enough to love, let love in and leave a lasting impact on everyone you meet.

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So today I celebrate the good in humans, the good in us all. #GoodFriday never made sense to me anyway. So I’m taking it back.

Here I am: free of shame, free of guilt, and full of love for myself and others.

Because humans deserve love.

#ExChristian #Agnostic #EmptyThePews