the more people keep portraying cis men as “all bad” trans men as “uwu smol beans soft boys need to be protected” the more young trans guys will see this shit and lash out because “no i’m not like that!!! if cis men are assholes then i am too!” (1/?)

obviously, this doesn’t give them the RIGHT to be dicks to everyone. but when the soft boi thing started in like 2014/2015, fourteen year old me HATED it. if all cis men are bad people, then i need to be a bad person too, right? i’m not a “smol bean soft boi” i’m a MAN. (2/?)

and i’m sure a ton of people following me went through that same phase when they were younger. separating us from cis men on the sole notion that “cis men bad trans men good” does nothing but hurt us. i see this so often where young trans guys will put everyone down (3/?)

because they don’t want to be seen as soft and timid. they’re regular dudes. and to so many people online, “regular dudes” are bad people, regardless if they actually are or not. they probably aren’t genuinely bad people at all, but they’re afraid that if they (4/?)

can’t put themselves into the “asshole” category, they’ll be lumped into the “uwu smol bean” category, and i certainly had an idea of which one was worse. i wanted people to think i was an asshole if it meant they’d think i was cis. (5/?)

i remember seeing that video on here a while back of the trans guy on tiktok who was making fun of other pre-t dudes for painting their nails and harmless shit like that, but i’m sure that this mindset had an effect on what he was thinking. (6/?)

the more people separate cis and trans men based on dumb shit like this, the more younger trans guys who might not know any better will assume that the only way to be a regular guy is to just be a dick, when that’s not true at all. majority of cis men are not bad people. (7/?)

i’m so fucking tired of seeing “this is why i don’t date cis men” “this means all cis men are bad, but not trans men”, it’s not making us feel better. for younger dudes especially, it’s going to make them want to act more like what you’re portraying as “all cis men”. (8/?)

so, to cis people: stop separating cis and trans men. we hate that. treat us the same way. you either like men or you don’t, stop with the “i hate cis men but i love trans men” bullshit. cis men are not a single entity and neither are trans men. (9/?)

to trans guys (especially those who are younger or pre-t): you’re not a smol soft bean. you’re a man. and you deserve to be treated like the cis men in the world. this doesn’t mean that you have a right to be a dick. men are not inherently bad, and you know that. (10/10).