i don't understand people who experience guilt often for no logical reason. guilt has only the tiniest place in my life. it's a single mustard seed—just big enough to keep me from being a raging a-hole. nothing more, nothing less.

it's strange and fascinating to hear other people talk about their experiences with guilt. i never get it. like why would you feel guilty for that?

the average person and i also have different standards with which to measure meanness. i think that has something to do with it.

almost everything i take into consideration is measured by dichotomies of logical/illogical, reasonable/unreasonable, possible/impossible and probable/improbable. of course, my thinking isn't THAT black and white, but those are my general standards.

sometimes something is illogical but reasonable. those things usually involve emotions, and the point at which an emotion/stance becomes unreasonable is typically when it's disproportionate to the situation and/or it impedes a good solution/infringes on someone else's rights.

i'm still speaking generally, of course, but yeah. this is how my brain works.

also, i will never tell you your feelings are valid. i might tell you that the way you feel is reasonable considering A, B and D and that i don't think you're overreacting.

but y'all have said feelings are valid so many times there's a cultural misconception of what constitutes validity, so i will not use that word to describe an emotion, and i will not affirm every feeling you have. if something is irrational, it's irrational.