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Mhlaba asked the other day for tips and tricks and highlights relevant to turning 30. It was an interesting thing to think on for me because when I turned 30, I was in a daze. I didn't notice any real changes till afterwards. But I do now.
I can't stay up too late. I fall asleep mid convos. I get tired by 3pm and pass put immediately I decide to. When I was younger I used to struggle to sleep even when I was exhausted enough to drop. My body isn't as resilient as it used to be.
Strangely on the other end, my immune system just miraculously improved. From childhood I would be sick every three months, flu, cold, tonsillitis and then I turned 30 and can legit say I have had three colds in the last two and a half years. My bones on the other hand?
My reproductive system which used to be all over the place, is now about 97% consistent every month. Like I know what I'm working with most of the time. And between getting older and yoni steaming, I don't cramp so much anymore. Thirst levels are through the roof however. 
Saying "no" has become so easy. I don't feel the need to impress people or please family so much as I used to when I was 22. When I say something people do it, because I'm not so unsure of myself or what I want anymore. My truths are so much more comfortable.
Creatively, I have grown to a place where I am doing things I like, for ME. I am Saying what I want to say and writing stories I want to tell. Master of my own fate, author of my own story so to speak and I respect myself more for it.
Love is so different now...I have less time to argue and find it easier to admit when I'm wrong and apologise. Looking inward for solutions to conflict instead of pointing fingers at the guy. Breathing through things. Enjoying moments. Being honest. Making fewer mistakes.
I don't hold on to people so tight anymore. Like you either wanna be here or you don't, and when you don't it's no skin off my back. Sounds callous but eish, go where you are appreciated not tolerated shani shani...
I say please, thank you, I appreciate you, I'm sorry, I love you so much more now because I have started losing people. Like to Death. And that makes it important for me that my people know how I really feel about them. Because you never know man.
I am committed to myself and to my dreams more now. Like I sit and think, what do I want my life to look like in five years and I'm now following through with those things. Before I used to just dream and drink gin. But now, I'm even saving.
Gid means something personal to me. He's no longer a borrowed concept. I can back up my beliefs for myself. That is priceless to me.
I a also learning how to "overshare" and be relatable without stripping myself naked in the street. Have always been so bad at walking that line. But I think I'm getting better. Let me know when I start boring you....
So...if you find yourself wondering about getting older and hitting the big 30. Look at this thread. You will still be you. Just better, maybe a little curvier and more stylish...but you will still be you. And you will love it...
