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okay, i hate being serious because i have the emotional capabilities and understanding of a fucking pebble. but. this is important to me, so here& #39;s a thread:
zach talks about gender, pronouns and identity.
zach talks about gender, pronouns and identity.
ive made comments abt & #39;trenders& #39; or w/e in the past and i realise that that makes me sound...... shitty. very shitty. i dont mean to/want to invalidate anyone& #39;s identity bc i know how that shit hurts. i do not have an issue with adapting what pronouns i use for you!!!!!!
when i talk abt & #39;trenders& #39; im talking abt the worrying amount of ppl saying theyre trans bc they want to try and get clout/internet points. i am NOT talking abt nb people, people who use they/them pronouns and identify as lesbian, gay, shit like that.
when i say & #39;trender& #39; im talking abt people who dont/have never experienced the discomfort that comes with gd or having someone use the wrong pronouns or shit like that.
i am of the opinion that you need gender dysphoria to be transgender/transsexual*. i am unapologetic about that.
*i am, of course, including nb ppl in my usage of these terms
*i am, of course, including nb ppl in my usage of these terms
pronouns: tell! me! if! i! get! them! wrong!
talk to me about this shit!!
i dont know if im doing something wrong unless you tell me!!!!!!
i wont be mad or angry, i will apologise and make the change necessary!!!!!!!!
if i get it wrong and you dont tell me, i cant make the change
talk to me about this shit!!
i dont know if im doing something wrong unless you tell me!!!!!!
i wont be mad or angry, i will apologise and make the change necessary!!!!!!!!
if i get it wrong and you dont tell me, i cant make the change
do i believe that nb ppl/ppl using they them can identify as lesbian/gay? yes
do i support these folk? absolutely
do i understand it? vaguely, bc ive been reading into it more and more bc i wanna be a better person with a larger understanding. i struggled grasping it +
do i support these folk? absolutely
do i understand it? vaguely, bc ive been reading into it more and more bc i wanna be a better person with a larger understanding. i struggled grasping it +
in the past because i have never had it explained to me. "if nonbinary means the absence of gender, how can you identify as a lesbian which is a gay woman?"
i tried to apply binary constraints to it, and that was unfair of me. i never had my question answered. but it doesnt +
i tried to apply binary constraints to it, and that was unfair of me. i never had my question answered. but it doesnt +
matter. what matters is that these people are real, valid, and i was in the wrong.
to anyone my attempt of applying a binary constrict to hurt, im sorry and i hope you can forgive me.
it doesnt matter if my question went unanswered, though it couldve saved a few ppl pain, i +
to anyone my attempt of applying a binary constrict to hurt, im sorry and i hope you can forgive me.
it doesnt matter if my question went unanswered, though it couldve saved a few ppl pain, i +
realise that i can come across as very bullheaded and unwilling to learn/adapt. i realise that, regardless of my ignorance, i& #39;ve been a fair bit of a twat.
i dont not expect forgiveness/sudden/unconditional forgiveness from those my lack of understanding has affected. i only +
i dont not expect forgiveness/sudden/unconditional forgiveness from those my lack of understanding has affected. i only +
hope they know i am being 100% sincere.
i hate the whole concept of & #39;tucutes& #39; and & #39;truscum& #39; and never wish to identify as either nor at all. i hate the way gender discussions have boiled down to & #39;well u either believe in 1500 genders or u think theres only 2 and u hate everyone else& #39;
there are things i dont and likely wont understand (for example: neopronouns, he/him lesbians). but i dont have to understand it.
if i have ever used the wrong pronouns for you, hop in my dms with the correct ones. i& #39;ll apologise, if we& #39;re close i& #39;ll tell you ily, and i will instantly adjust my behaviour and language accordingly. no questions asked.
i hate the knowledge that i might have/most likely have +
i hate the knowledge that i might have/most likely have +
caused a person harm/hurt/upset/discomfort without knowing.
i hate the fact that i may have hurt the people on here and irl i actually give two shits about with my not knowing.
i hate the fact that i may have hurt the people on here and irl i actually give two shits about with my not knowing.
as said, i wont pry and i wont ask questions. i& #39;ll mind my own business and use the pronouns you ask me to.
i refuse to accidentally hurt those care about any longer.
i refuse to accidentally hurt those care about any longer.
this isnt meant to hurt/offend/target anyone, this is just a general thing i wanted to put out there.
i want people to be able to be themselves around me and to know i wont be a dick about it, and i also (most of the time) need you to spell this shit out for me
i want people to be able to be themselves around me and to know i wont be a dick about it, and i also (most of the time) need you to spell this shit out for me
so yeah, if you want just dm me your pronouns and i& #39;ll adjust as quickly as possible and ill change my language, etc. im willing to change, i just need to know what im to be changing to.
so, that concludes this thread for now; apologies for any spelling errors, grammatical wrongs, repitition, all that shit. i hope you all have a wonderful evening, i think im gonna go for a nap and pretend i havent just emotionally exhausted myself on twitter
