The whole “don’t be with someone if you’re not even happy with yourself” construct is so messed up to me. I am happy with myself but just because I have a mental illness doesn’t mean I shouldn’t be loved. Overall I am happy with who I am but I have phases where I’m not.

I feel like that phrase really tears down people with mental illnesses. It makes us feel like we shouldn’t be loved because occasionally we struggle with ourselves and who we are. That doesn’t mean we don’t deserve love. If anything we need it more during that time.

I’m tired of people saying not to find happiness in someone else. I don’t think I do that. I think that having someone else shows the importance of love and life itself. The little things become the world and etc. I don’t need someone to be happy but don’t invalidate me.