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i love trans ppl and trans representation, i love trans ppl loving themselves and finding rep + a safe space to feel good abt themselves in fictional works! thatâs a beautiful thing iâd never want to try to take away from anyone!
and iâd never want to sound like iâm trying to tell other trans people how to feel
the world tries to shit on us and profits from our self hatred enough, least we can do is love and support each other
the world tries to shit on us and profits from our self hatred enough, least we can do is love and support each other
that being said, as a trans man who gets major dysphoria often from simply being reminded that iâm trans, /i/ donât feel safe or welcome in fandom most of the time. at least not as a trans person. because itâs not as easy as âdonât look at itâ when SO many people donât even tag!
how do i Not Look at explicit PIV art of a trans character right on my timeline? how do i avoid getting my mental health affected when people suddenly throw in afab language in the middle of a tweet thread or ppl rt the middle of someoneâs thread where the warnings arenât listed?
how do you avoid ppl literally @âing others with that content without knowing if itâs okay?
how am i supposed to not feel bad or uncomfy abt the fact that like 99% of the content created by cis(!) ppl where keith is trans, itâs PWP with PIV afab language (or even pregnancy fic)?
how am i supposed to not feel bad or uncomfy abt the fact that like 99% of the content created by cis(!) ppl where keith is trans, itâs PWP with PIV afab language (or even pregnancy fic)?
and even with other trans people, i donât understand why itâs off limit to talk abt how weâre handling some things. as a gay man, iâm not going to write a bi or lesbian character & base it all on my own experiences, then say no one can take an issue with it bc hey weâre all queer
again, iâm literally not trying to tell people what they should or shouldnât do tho, & esp not how trans ppl should feel abt themselves. i donât think anyone deserves to be attacked for the fictional content they create. but that doesnât mean you canât think critically abt things
the fact is that most of the content created in fandom including trans men is porn, and itâs usually:
-thin twinky guy is trans, buff tall bf is cis
-trans guy always bottoms
-PIV, afab language
-a lot a lot a LOT of focus on the trans manâs genitals
-no bottom surgery ever ofc
-thin twinky guy is trans, buff tall bf is cis
-trans guy always bottoms
-PIV, afab language
-a lot a lot a LOT of focus on the trans manâs genitals
-no bottom surgery ever ofc
-no acknowledgment of any bodily changes related to being on t (for example such as needing lube; instead itâs usually a waterfall happening from One Look by the big buff cis dude & then squirting etc)...
-...yet there are never any mentions of dysphoria or anything either
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-...yet there are never any mentions of dysphoria or anything either
& to make myself clear again, these are NOT automatically bad things! if youâre a trans guy and thatâs what youâre into and comfy with thatâs great!! trans people who donât experience dysphoria over these things are amazing and valid and i literally love that for them!
but hereâs the thing i think bothers me the most, the thing that hurtsâoftentimes if those listed things ARENâT included...? even by ppl who say they care abt trans rep, if itâs not porn/PIV/some state of undress focusing on our bodies⊠then the guy will be written/drawn as cis.
there is almost NEVER any casual inclusion of trans men outside of porn in fandom, and only specific porn at that.
which is what has me feeling some kind of way. ÂŻ\_(ă)_/ÂŻ
which is what has me feeling some kind of way. ÂŻ\_(ă)_/ÂŻ
and if anyone wants to go like âbut itâs fandom, everything is porn here!â
the thing is, thatâs not true. for every explicit work w cis guys Just Banging, they get almost as many fics with fluff, adventure, hurt/comfort, 25k of friends-to-lovers coffee shop aus etc whatever, too
the thing is, thatâs not true. for every explicit work w cis guys Just Banging, they get almost as many fics with fluff, adventure, hurt/comfort, 25k of friends-to-lovers coffee shop aus etc whatever, too
for every way that cis guys will fuck in one fic, itâll be diff in the next. if cis characters get written in pwp, there will also be several other fics where their lives and characterization revolve around so much else
i donât even have like ?? something concrete to end this with, One Big Goal iâm trying to achieve lmao. iâm not the only person who can speak on this or even speak for anyone else. iâm just saying... talking abt things isnât always policing or attacking.
and i guess, justâif youâre trans and create explicit or otherwise potentially dysphoric content with trans people, please include the proper tags. not because weâre something that needs to come with a warning, but for your fellow trans peopleâs sake.
(also this might be a discussion for another time, but ? if youâre trans but donât id as a trans man, and youâre writing trans men, i know iâd personally LOVE to see more works with nb or genderqueer ppl too??? everyone doesnât have to just write abt binary trans identities??)
if youâre cis and you do actually care about trans people, please do your research. read guides by trans people on how to write us, listen to a lot of *different* opinions, learn abt harmful tropes and stereotypes (if theyâre done by a cis person, i mean). include us casually!
consider how to help normalize our inclusion without having all (or any) of the focus being on our bodiesâno matter what the rating of the story is!
i just....... really donât think thatâs asking for too much
i just....... really donât think thatâs asking for too much
