My mom’s boyfriend is the only person to really understand the gifts part of my love language without even trying. It’s a great example of how love languages are NOT just for romantic relationships. He brings/gives me things, unprompted, that make me feel heard and cared abt.

My favorite example is one time I was just complaining out loud about the wasps getting into the screened porch and about being out of wasp spray.

The next day he comes over like “I got you something” and I’m like ?? Then he hands me a big new can of wasp spray. I was so happy.

This goes to show that having a gifts love language does not mean you expect someone to buy you expensive presents and jewelry or whatever. It’s a matter of feeling known and heard when someone spontaneously gives you something they know you like, want, or need.

Another time, we saw an ad for Ben&Jerry’s ice cream and casually talked abt their flavors. A few days later he brought me my favorite flavor.

He also jokingly got me a pack of earplugs so I dont have to hear him and my mom have sex lmao

Today he came by and gave me a Dunkin Donuts giftcard that he got from his work, cause he’s seen me drink Dunkin coffee before.

It’s just that it seems natural or casual for him, like he doesnt even think abt it. For other ppl, it takes conscious effort to understand gifts LL.

Obviously I EQUALLY appreciate the effort other people put in to love me through gifts or any LL!!! Naturally understanding isnt “better than” effortful understanding.

This has just been a Mike appreciation thread I suppose