If you could embrace and release judgment about the part of you that tries to perform righteousness by over giving and people pleasing then the truth of you could be revealed. You could then see it’s safe to use discernment and have boundaries with how much you give of ourself.

I tune into what people mean not what they say. Sadly what most mean when they say “empathy“ is actually pity. Its a type of unskilled empathy that is extractive and reinforces a disempowered narrative. It leads to impulsive rescuing, self-sacrifice and compromising integrity.

When you pity someone, sure you may be able to soothe them momentarily, but you can not liberate their consciousness or free their soul. Because you have gone asleep into the illusion too. You have allowed their circumstances to veil the truth of their sovereign divinity.

In order to help liberate someone from the dream you have to be able to see every part of them. The part that is an actor in this play and the part of them that is greater then all of this. Simultaneously. And that means being able to hold the paradox of these multiple realities.

Notice what happens when you hear someone sharing what they are struggling with. Do you immediately jump out of your body and go in their experience. Do you start feeling sorry for them. Do you absorb their emotions. Instead stay in your body and hold the energetic container.

Skilled empathy is rare. So rare, many people do not have a reference point for what the energetic signature of it is, how to embody it or how to attune to it. It certainly does not look like absorbing everything in your environment without respect for your own beautiful body