I was once sat in a roomful of older married Asian women (in their 50’s ish) and they were talking about how the young women of today are too sensitive. They then started sharing personal stories detailing domestic violence, awful in-laws and other marital issues that they had. https://twitter.com/nnnnnnxo/status/1248259766721417217

They spoke with so much pride for being able to handle all of that and still staying with their husbands. To them, the idea of a woman leaving their husband if he’s violent or demanding to live separately from in-laws, it’s beyond foreign. It’s as though all of those tribulations

are a rite of passage. Like you have to go through all those trials to prove how committed you are to your marriage/husband. The older women in our communities, they still think that the most shameful thing a woman can face is returning to her parents house after marriage.

And it falls to us to try and change their minds. Those women were never supported, never taught that it’s okay to walk away from something as toxic as the environment they married into. I walked out of that room with a very different opinion of all their husbands tbh.

I still think even our generation of women will be shamed if we decide to leave a toxic marriage but hopefully the generations after us will have our support. Let’s all pray we don’t turn into the aunties that came before us. Can’t help feeling sorry for them though.