Unless you want a marriage just like your theirs (read: Mothers& #39;) stop asking Nigerian parents for their thoughts on marriage. There& #39;s nothing there but endurance, battles, suppression and self doubt.

And I don& #39;t blame them as such, they can only tell you how they& #39;ve "managed to keep a husband" - not how to enjoy your marriage because many of them didn& #39;t have that. Ask your mum to tell you the truth! She won& #39;t because she doesn& #39;t want to be disillusioned or die-vuhsed!