I don’t want women to believe they prompt, or deserve violence. We keep talking about how women provoke men to physically harm them because of sharp tongues or harsh words, but these men don’t ever seem to get provoked to physical violence except in domestic situations.

Men with a reputation for beating girlfriends and wives but no reputation outside of that for getting into fights or altercations with other men. Oftentimes, news of a man beating his gf/wife is met with shock esp cos ‘they dont seem like the type’. So what’s the truth?

It has nothing to do with women being harsh or having razor blade tongues and more to do with men
- expecting subservience from women
- not granting women the ‘audacity’ to disrespect them, like how we treat kids
- wanting to discipline/knock her down a peg or 10

Men who abuse women have a patterned history of violence within their relationships. It’s hardly ever unique to a particular woman. Men who do not abuse women do not have a history of violence in their relationships. Stands to reason it has nothing to do with what women ‘provoke’

Harmful takes about women provoking violence is victim blaming & infantilization, hinged on the false idea that the ‘good submissive’ woman by not stepping out of line ‘earns’ decency and respect. It also absolves men from their violent and childish lack of control.

These things are always about power and power only.