You know, this doesn’t strike me as funny at all. This strikes me as someone who has serious food insecurity and serious trust issues related to it. https://twitter.com/redditships/status/1247895025788137474

And honestly, look—it is fundamentally irrational behavior, yes, but if you can afford it? $10 a week in additional beans for the bean storage gods is cheaper than therapy.

I dunno, everyone is irrational about something, and hiding beans is just not inherently harmful. Agree on an in-house bean stash for him and her own personal bean stash.

It’s a pandemic. You can have coping mechanisms that aren’t ideal.

For the record, after looking at some of his comments, I suspect there may be issues on both sides regarding food hiding, and look, sometimes stuff like this happens to help surface issues that you don’t know are there.

You either double down on your bullshit and don’t try to find a solution that makes you both feel safe, or you say, “hey, your bullshit is important to me, and I hope mine is important to you. Here’s what would make me feel safe. What would make you feel safe?”

The point of no return is not the existence of irrational bullshit.

It’s where one person refuses to let someone else’s perception of safety be a priority.

In many ways, I think the deepest expression of love is being able to trust someone with your irrational bullshit and know that they will not stomp on it in a way that hurts you.

Likewise, I think one of the best things you can do for your relationships is to figure out how to arrange your irrational bullshit so that it does the least harm to the people you love.