Tamil peeps (mostly for boys) who follow me on this here bird app (a thread) :

This ain't a boys vs. girls Jodi number one season 7 dance battle fam. Women are bullies, men are bullies and nb folks are bullies too. I get it.

BUT... yes there's a but, a big "butt"

TW: bullying

You gotta be open to having dialogues and growing a few extra brain cells and blossom into a wholesome ass Tamil person.

So learn a few things while you're here on this thread. Need me to read it out loud to you, because I talk too much? I gotchu.

I don't wanna throw in "Statistically, women are.." but I do want to say -- There's ladies on here confidently being themselves, putting themselves out there, and breaking glass ceilings that you lot don't see. They're trying to thrive and they often do.

And hey, it's nice to see men do the same thing. But you don't face slut-shaming, cyberbullying and being told how to dress, and your bodies arent fetishized in the weirdest ways. Y'all can roam freely.

Listen fam, I wanna roam freely too.

Harassing someone is one thing, but full out traumatizing them in the DMs and threatening them with shit ain't.

People wanna be free, and this kinda bs cages them up, and clips their wings for good. So if they do escape, shit ain't the same for them anymore.

A person could get a thousand compliments, but that ONE negative comment will negatively affect their mental health -- for days, and even years.

How would I know? It's the same reason why I wasn't consistently making content since 2010, and only recently started going awwwf.

Trauma can be related to any of the following
- War
- Intergenerational
- Work/stress related
- Sexual abuse/Physical
- Mental/Emotional
& so much more.

Words and actions hurt in more ways we can fathom.

Bullies can have unaddressed trauma that forces them to behave a certain way the same way victims/survivors do too. It's all about becoming more aware of this shit.

So check yourself first, before you go around doing reckless shit.

And wait let me put my sociology hat on :

The more you perpetuate abusive/sexist/anti-black behaviour, you're signaling to others that it's okay to behave like this.

So when you do check yourself, check your crew too. Y'all can thrive together.

I mean I can easily tell y'all what to do or how to think, but again I'm a nobody. But my boy Anniyan ain't.