The wife of the former Oyo state governor was on a live video normalizing male infidelity. “You’re cheap when you give urself to my husband. What’s mine is mine, he’d use you & come back to me...”
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No ma! Your hubby is the cheap community penis!
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THREAD!

If your hubby cheats on you, it is utmost disregard for the marriage. He has broken the marriage! I cringed when she said “I’d fight for what belongs to me..”. Oh God! A man that makes you fight for him is not ready! Why give your all, & celebrate being given the barest minimum?

You see, more than the fury I feel, it’s more of pity. I pity women when they are slaves to misogyny. This is what we get when we groom girls for marriage! Parents! Stop teaching your daughters that marriage is the ultimate prize! This is the result of such toxic parenting!

These girls grow up into women whose esteem have been swept under the rug, with saggy confidence. All they need is a man — anything with a penis, to earn the status of being married. Then in the marriage, they are committed to men who are dedicated to shattering the marriage.

A woman‘s worth and dignity should never be based on marital success, because there are many men who are not ready to make it work. A healthy marriage can only be achieved with both parties bring their best; when both parties are committed to building!

It will never work when you’re the one being faithful; it’ll never work when you’re the only one being accountable; it’ll never work if you have to fight for a man. Fight for him as what?! Walk out of any man who’s not ready to meet you halfway! You deserve what you give!

In her whole speech, she never called out her hubby for such disregard for their marriage. She demonized the side chics he cheated with. You married the man! He vowed to be faithful; he owes you this! And in many cases these ‘side chics’ don’t know they are married!

She told her hubby to pay off the side chic coz where will she go if she leaves the marriage?

Oh! Women, it’s okay to be single again! If you give your all, and he can’t give his all, never stoop low to accept crumbs when you give the whole loaf! It’s okay to be single again!

She asserted that many women do worse things cheating in marriage, which she mentioned women who build houses without letting their husbands know. Can we honest that this mostly happens in marriages where the woman knows her husband cannot accommodate her success?!

Show me a woman who hides her material possessions from her hubby, I’ll most likely show you a man who’s insecure, and would feel threatened by her accomplishments.

Before you’re quick to shush, and discredit me with my age, and how it worked for her and she’s happy. No. She’s not happy. Because there are slaves who do the task well and enjoy doesn’t mean slavery is okay. It’s Stockholm syndrome. Woman, know what you deserve!